All too often, I have a client tell me that they just can't seem to find a man. Ironically, a lot of male clients tell me they have no idea how to find a woman. And like with all things, I have something to say about that... So, let's BLOG about it~
First things first, you gotta be ready to find someone! Going out to meet new people with a broken heart, tons of luggage, and desperation ain't gonna do anybody any good. So, before you attempt any of these other suggestions, you need to make sure you are ready. Pushing yourself into a Band-Aid relationship isn't going to make you happy in the long-run. It isn't. And if you think you need a man to fix you, consider this your wake-up call.
Once you have pulled the thorns of heartbreak and healed the wounds of loneliness, proceed with Step 2... Find places that do what you love. If you love books, go to bookstores. Enjoy coffee? Go to a coffee shop! If you like Paranormal and Horror culture, go to ScareFest (Shameless Plug) In short, find out what you love to do and go to the places that specialize in it.
While you are there, meet people. Go ahead and strike up a conversation with someone who enjoys what you love! I understand that meeting people this way isn't easy, but you have got to try. This means that you have to have courage and take a risk. A.K.A. You gotta go after what you want. Like Bob Ross says, "If you want the fruit of the tree, you gotta go out on a limb. Out on the limb is where the fruit is." And who could ever disagree with Bob Ross?!
If publicly striking up convo's with strangers isn't your style, you are in luck! You happen to be living in the explosion of Internet Dating! Never before has Internet Dating been so popular and socially acceptable! And there is statistical information that several sites have GREAT success in matching couples! Now I issue a warning, you WILL receive a multitude of questionable photographs in your email. Be prepared for that. But if you sift through and delete those types of messages, you will find some respectable messages from respectable candidates! Just remember: there may be plenty of fish in the sea, but there are also plenty of sharks. Bare that in mind when approaching the Internet Dating method.
Whether you are meeting people in person or meeting people online, you WILL eventually have to speak to them. So, my logic is that you might as well meet someone in person and start off talking. I often apply this type of interaction to the 2 of Cups: the spark of chemistry between two people and the sharing of their emotions. It is a beautiful card that describes the moment when two lovers connect. And remember, "you can't start a fire without a spark." Why not spark at a Starbucks?!
At the end of the day, there are at least 50 ways to meet a lover. But you can be sure, you will never be able to rush it. You can go out there and put yourself in social situations, but you can't rush love. It will come in it's time. But I guarantee you that it is easier to meet somebody at a Book-Seller or online, than alone on your couch. I say that with respect, as always.
During Tarot Dates, I like to take time to discuss spiritual growth and development. Sadly, too many people ignore the spiritual aspect of their lives. Worse than that, many people don't even know how to get in touch with their spirit. I have used the Tarot to help many people with this, even my self. So, let's BLOG about it.
The first step you must take to find your spiritual self is to realize what moves your spirit. It should be perplexing to your mind, deepen your consciousness, and activate the best qualities of who you are. For some people, meditation is how they center and connect to light. For other people, prayer is the way to their soul. For me, nothing works better than chanting and silent prayer. Whatever works for you will do... as long as it works!
The second step is to do what moves you and to live in rhythm with it. This means that if prayer is how you connect with your divinity, do it. If Yoga is how you recharge and renew, Downward Dog for all you're worth. And don't half-ass it! You have got to intensely and consistently do what stirs your spirit. Don't just turn on the music of your soul and walk off, dance for crying out loud!
Once you have found what moves you and begin utilizing it, you have got to let go of everything else. Although this is the last step in our process, it is a crucial step. Let go of your self judgement. Let go of pressures others put on you. Let go of your fear, doubt, and anxiety. Instead, take refuge in your spiritual path and live in the light that is inherent in your life. And if you do what I am suggesting, letting go will gradually become easier and easier.
The sad truth is that human beings are endowed with a deep, spiritual consciousness that is being robbed from us. Work, family pressures, taxes, and politics have turned us all into machines. And I am here to tell you, that ain't the way to live. The only way to combat this is to wake up your spirit, live in your light, and let go of everything else. Stop trading your grace for Facebook, start living in your grace and nurturing it. If you do, your life might just change and the familiar warmth of spirit will return.