All too often, I have a client tell me that they just can't seem to find a man. Ironically, a lot of male clients tell me they have no idea how to find a woman. And like with all things, I have something to say about that... So, let's BLOG about it~
First things first, you gotta be ready to find someone! Going out to meet new people with a broken heart, tons of luggage, and desperation ain't gonna do anybody any good. So, before you attempt any of these other suggestions, you need to make sure you are ready. Pushing yourself into a Band-Aid relationship isn't going to make you happy in the long-run. It isn't. And if you think you need a man to fix you, consider this your wake-up call.
Once you have pulled the thorns of heartbreak and healed the wounds of loneliness, proceed with Step 2... Find places that do what you love. If you love books, go to bookstores. Enjoy coffee? Go to a coffee shop! If you like Paranormal and Horror culture, go to ScareFest (Shameless Plug) In short, find out what you love to do and go to the places that specialize in it.
While you are there, meet people. Go ahead and strike up a conversation with someone who enjoys what you love! I understand that meeting people this way isn't easy, but you have got to try. This means that you have to have courage and take a risk. A.K.A. You gotta go after what you want. Like Bob Ross says, "If you want the fruit of the tree, you gotta go out on a limb. Out on the limb is where the fruit is." And who could ever disagree with Bob Ross?!
If publicly striking up convo's with strangers isn't your style, you are in luck! You happen to be living in the explosion of Internet Dating! Never before has Internet Dating been so popular and socially acceptable! And there is statistical information that several sites have GREAT success in matching couples! Now I issue a warning, you WILL receive a multitude of questionable photographs in your email. Be prepared for that. But if you sift through and delete those types of messages, you will find some respectable messages from respectable candidates! Just remember: there may be plenty of fish in the sea, but there are also plenty of sharks. Bare that in mind when approaching the Internet Dating method.
Whether you are meeting people in person or meeting people online, you WILL eventually have to speak to them. So, my logic is that you might as well meet someone in person and start off talking. I often apply this type of interaction to the 2 of Cups: the spark of chemistry between two people and the sharing of their emotions. It is a beautiful card that describes the moment when two lovers connect. And remember, "you can't start a fire without a spark." Why not spark at a Starbucks?!
At the end of the day, there are at least 50 ways to meet a lover. But you can be sure, you will never be able to rush it. You can go out there and put yourself in social situations, but you can't rush love. It will come in it's time. But I guarantee you that it is easier to meet somebody at a Book-Seller or online, than alone on your couch. I say that with respect, as always.