All too often, I have a client tell me that they just can't seem to find a man. Ironically, a lot of male clients tell me they have no idea how to find a woman. And like with all things, I have something to say about that... So, let's BLOG about it~
First things first, you gotta be ready to find someone! Going out to meet new people with a broken heart, tons of luggage, and desperation ain't gonna do anybody any good. So, before you attempt any of these other suggestions, you need to make sure you are ready. Pushing yourself into a Band-Aid relationship isn't going to make you happy in the long-run. It isn't. And if you think you need a man to fix you, consider this your wake-up call.
Once you have pulled the thorns of heartbreak and healed the wounds of loneliness, proceed with Step 2... Find places that do what you love. If you love books, go to bookstores. Enjoy coffee? Go to a coffee shop! If you like Paranormal and Horror culture, go to ScareFest (Shameless Plug) In short, find out what you love to do and go to the places that specialize in it.
While you are there, meet people. Go ahead and strike up a conversation with someone who enjoys what you love! I understand that meeting people this way isn't easy, but you have got to try. This means that you have to have courage and take a risk. A.K.A. You gotta go after what you want. Like Bob Ross says, "If you want the fruit of the tree, you gotta go out on a limb. Out on the limb is where the fruit is." And who could ever disagree with Bob Ross?!
If publicly striking up convo's with strangers isn't your style, you are in luck! You happen to be living in the explosion of Internet Dating! Never before has Internet Dating been so popular and socially acceptable! And there is statistical information that several sites have GREAT success in matching couples! Now I issue a warning, you WILL receive a multitude of questionable photographs in your email. Be prepared for that. But if you sift through and delete those types of messages, you will find some respectable messages from respectable candidates! Just remember: there may be plenty of fish in the sea, but there are also plenty of sharks. Bare that in mind when approaching the Internet Dating method.
Whether you are meeting people in person or meeting people online, you WILL eventually have to speak to them. So, my logic is that you might as well meet someone in person and start off talking. I often apply this type of interaction to the 2 of Cups: the spark of chemistry between two people and the sharing of their emotions. It is a beautiful card that describes the moment when two lovers connect. And remember, "you can't start a fire without a spark." Why not spark at a Starbucks?!
At the end of the day, there are at least 50 ways to meet a lover. But you can be sure, you will never be able to rush it. You can go out there and put yourself in social situations, but you can't rush love. It will come in it's time. But I guarantee you that it is easier to meet somebody at a Book-Seller or online, than alone on your couch. I say that with respect, as always.
During Tarot Dates, I like to take time to discuss spiritual growth and development. Sadly, too many people ignore the spiritual aspect of their lives. Worse than that, many people don't even know how to get in touch with their spirit. I have used the Tarot to help many people with this, even my self. So, let's BLOG about it.
The first step you must take to find your spiritual self is to realize what moves your spirit. It should be perplexing to your mind, deepen your consciousness, and activate the best qualities of who you are. For some people, meditation is how they center and connect to light. For other people, prayer is the way to their soul. For me, nothing works better than chanting and silent prayer. Whatever works for you will do... as long as it works!
The second step is to do what moves you and to live in rhythm with it. This means that if prayer is how you connect with your divinity, do it. If Yoga is how you recharge and renew, Downward Dog for all you're worth. And don't half-ass it! You have got to intensely and consistently do what stirs your spirit. Don't just turn on the music of your soul and walk off, dance for crying out loud!
Once you have found what moves you and begin utilizing it, you have got to let go of everything else. Although this is the last step in our process, it is a crucial step. Let go of your self judgement. Let go of pressures others put on you. Let go of your fear, doubt, and anxiety. Instead, take refuge in your spiritual path and live in the light that is inherent in your life. And if you do what I am suggesting, letting go will gradually become easier and easier.
The sad truth is that human beings are endowed with a deep, spiritual consciousness that is being robbed from us. Work, family pressures, taxes, and politics have turned us all into machines. And I am here to tell you, that ain't the way to live. The only way to combat this is to wake up your spirit, live in your light, and let go of everything else. Stop trading your grace for Facebook, start living in your grace and nurturing it. If you do, your life might just change and the familiar warmth of spirit will return.
You know when you go through something terrible and the best thing you have to say is, “lesson learned,” only to have the same situation come up again??? Why does that happen?! Why do some people (me included) keep going over and over the same situations and issues? Is it bad luck? Or is it that we didn’t learn our lesson? That’s an interesting question… so, let's BLOG about it!
When we were children, we learned many life lessons that still prove useful throughout our entire lives. For example, when you were young and touched a hot skillet, you learned to not touch a hot skillet. Or maybe you stuck a safety pin in a light socket, pretending it was a mailbox and you were the Post Master? Okay, that’s a specific situation… but you see my point: You learned not to do these things. And because of this lesson learned, you changed your behavior to accommodate future, similar circumstances.
Through the course of my Tarot Dates this week, I noticed that a lot of us don’t always learn our lesson. If we did learn our lesson, we don’t always apply the lesson learned to our current situations. And because we do not change to reflect these important lessons, we fall into suffering and misery. Here's an example… Yesterday I boiled a pot of hot water, to make a French Press of coffee. I knew the water was extremely hot and that I should be careful, but instead… I screwed up and the boiling water washed over my hands. Effect? I inadvertently scalded myself!!! This happened because I was so sleepy that I wasn’t being mindful of the situation and recognizing the dangers. If I had been mindful, my fingers wouldn’t have felt like Blanched Sausages.
Let’s look at some more situations where lessons can be learned. Say, you go through heartbreak and vow never to trust a man again. Maybe he has proven himself a cheater on multiple occasions? In the moment, you are devastated and distraught! And yet, because of various justifications, you go right back to him. Did you not learn your lesson? If you did, why are you marrying him for the 3rd time? Someone says something that hurts you deep, you realize you are above it and vow never to let this person screw with you again. Then, days or months later, that person pulls the same old business… Someone who has learned their lesson would shake it off and continue on proudly. But someone who didn’t learn their lesson, reopens the old wound and suffers it all again.
What’s my point? My point is that you should live life and learn all it has to offer. And once you have gained certain truths, act in accord with those truths. If you don’t, you are doomed to suffer in similar ways over and over. And if you ask me, that sounds like complete Hell. I understand that the exact same situation doesn’t always pop-up. Of course, but they are often very similar situations and some lessons transcend various details… There are many lessons which are widely applicable, across all aspects of your life.
Until next week, don’t be sticking safety pins in light sockets and playing with hot skillets! And if you do, please don't bitch about how bad it hurts. Prove that you've learned your lesson.
All My Love,
This week was filled to the brim with awesome readings! Several different themes repeated throughout the week, also. The two most popular themes were understanding true happiness, and saying goodbye to toxic people. In the interest of having a positive blog this week, we’re gonna focus on happiness. Let’s BLOG about it!
Most of everyone I read for has, at some point or other, asked me to help them find happiness. That isn’t such as easy challenge. When asked to help find someone’s happiness, you gotta first find out if this person understands true happiness. And do they know the difference between dependent happiness and true happiness? If so, are they willing to work and strive for achieving true happiness?
Let’s discuss the difference… dependent happiness is dependent upon a lot of things. Your happiness is dependent on your surroundings, the people around you, or what you scroll past on Social Media. If these things easily upset you, you’ve been living in dependent happiness. Don’t get me wrong, I’ll take dependent happiness over depression any day of the week. But there is a better way to live…
True happiness is just that, TRUE happiness. It is a life-state where you are joyful, regardless of what happens around you. If you are truly happy, you will not swayed by what others think, say, or do. You are happy regardless if your boss is a jackass, or your bestie. You are happy whether Trump wins, or not! If you are truly happy, you will shine… no matter what.
What does it take to achieve true happiness? Well, that is where the Tarot comes into play! It helps me to see into your life and find those things that no longer serve you. The Tarot helps me locate your challenges and to help you see a new way of handling them. I use the Tarot to help you find the joy in your juggle and the happiness in being EXACTLY where you are.
How? It is simple, true happiness already exists within you. All I need is a deck of cards to find out what it will take to bring it forth from within your life.
All you have to do is be willing to hear the truth, take responsibility, and do the work it takes. Let’s face it, that ain’t easy…. neither is being TRULY happy! It takes CONSISTENT work, constant focus, and endless perseverance. If you have all that and would like me to help, please contact me. I am more than happy to read for you and bring out true happiness in your life. You just gotta want it.
All My Love,
Recently, something really sad happened to me, but it also made something very clear to me… We people in the Mystical and Paranormal Industry have got to be better to each other. It is such an important issue, I have to BLOG about it.
A few weeks ago, I was at a Paranormal event. The event was an overwhelming success for me and many others who participated in it. Then, as I was leaving, a Vendor pulled some snide and malicious behavior. Basically, they were suggesting that I am not as attractive in person as I am in my Tarot By Ken promotional posters. Their question was, “Who is that in the posters?” My response was that it was obviously me. They gave a look like I was airbrushed beyond a Kardashian and said, “Sure…” My heart stopped. My response was that it was a terribly nasty thing to say to someone and with that, I continued to walk out the door. That's when this person shouted, “And I’m not the other one who thinks so!”
What would cause someone to do that? Why would you, in front of other Vendors and a number of Guests, say something so malicious? Even now, nearly 2 weeks later, I am at a complete loss for a rational explanation. But it brings up my point: Those of us in the Mystical and Paranormal Industry need to be better to each other. It's that simple.
We have an entire world that pokes fun at us. We have an entire world that ridicules us. Why on Earth would we want to be that way to each other? It makes no sense. Instead of hurting each other, we should be lifting each other up. You know I’m right, too.
There is always a Medium who dogs another Medium. There is always a Lecturer who knows their subject better than the next. There is always an Investigation Team that downs the evidence and discredits another Team. And that has got to stop.
If we want the world to take us seriously, we need to get together and start presenting a more united front. We need to celebrate the successes of others and not be so damned stuck on our own success.
If we do not do this, we will not need Skeptics to tear about what we’ve built, we will destroy it ourselves. We won’t need ignorant fear-mongers to wreck it, WE WILL! So, I am asking you, no… I am BEGGING you, be better to each other. Take care of each other. PROMOTE each other. Because at the end of the day, there is enough success and spot light for us ALL. Get it together.
This weekend proved several things to me… the most important being that I need to discuss what it means for me to be a Tarot Reader. I don’t need to explain what it means to read Tarot, but I need to explain what reading Tarot does to me. It is one thing that I rarely ever discuss, but today - we’re gonna BLOG about it.
On a regular basis, many people in my personal life are very disappointed in me. They think I ignore them. They think I am too busy for them, and a bunch of other things that are simply not true. You see, after hours and hours of reading for people, there is very little of ME left for me. So after a full day of readings, I am so drained that I can’t do anything other than my best to recharge. So, I go to the Prayer Room and try to recover. This leaves very little time for anything else; especially, when you add all of my personal responsibilities, family, housecleaning, bills, and running my business entirely by myself. In short, I often stay a heartbeat away from exhaustion.
Reading the Tarot, as an Empath Intuitive means that I not only read cards about your life, I also feel your life. It's like this, Clairvoyant Psychics see your life, and Clairaudient Psychics hear pieces of your life. As an Empath, I FEEL your life. This means that every sad thing that comes up in your reading is immediately felt through my body and mind, as if I lived it. Needless to say, it is very taxing on my mental and emotional self. Imagine going through 2 divorces, multiple depressive states, and the loss of a loved one - all in the span of 6 hours…. it ain’t easy.
As someone who cares deeply for their clients, I do my very best to pull them out of their heartbreaking circumstances. This often requires great care and counseling, which takes even more from me. Beyond that, I make myself available to my clients 24/7. At any time my clients need me, I am there. Basically, my job isn’t physically demanding, my job is psychically and emotionally demanding. But let me makes this clear… I love what I do, but it DOES take its toll. Not a complaint, just the nature of my business.
So, if you are waiting to hear back from me, don’t think I have forgotten you. Also, don’t think that I believe I am too good or too busy to talk to you. It simply means that I am doing my best to be the best and that takes A LOT! I do return emails, texts, and messages pretty quickly. But let’s face it, that’s hardly the way to have a fulfilling friendship with someone. I understand that and believe me, I am doing my best to get stronger and to handle more. Until then, please be patient with me. I still love you and I’ll be a better son, husband, and friend before you know it.
All My Love,
Last week, there were several themes that continued to repeat throughout multiple Tarot Dates. It is a very rare occurrence because everyone's readings are unique, but it does happen. Usually, the repeating themes are HUGE life lessons. So, I decided I would BLOG about them and share them with you!
Life Lesson #1 - You CAN be happy, right where you are, here and now. You’ve got to make it a point to be happy and never stop fighting to maintain that life state! It isn’t easy; I’m not saying it is. But if you bravely challenge your darkness, battle your obstacles… you WILL win and you CAN be happy. To begin, it starts with your perspective. You must make it a point to find the positive in ALL things. You must accept that you are responsible for your own happiness, and actively fight for it. Your darkness will NOT defeat itself.
Life Lesson #2 - The scope of your life is immense and incomprehensible. Your spirit and light are timeless and will never truly die. You will always, in one form of energy or the other, be alive. You were here when the Universe burst into creation and you will be here after the last star loses its light. Sure, your physical body will pass into death, but YOU will still remain. I don’t care where you pray… you are eternal, you are forever.
Life Lesson #3 – Your true potential is limitless, but it takes time to reveal it. That is just how it goes. If you were to understand your full potential from the get-go, you’d burn too bright, too quick. You are not meant to see all you are, all at once! You need to gradually go along your journey, revealing this potential as you go. You should never limit yourself by thinking that you’ve gone as far as you can. Never convince yourself that you can’t do or achieve the very best. With faith, measurable effort, and perseverance… you can totally transform your suffering into your glory. So, never give up… ever – not even for a second.
After seeing these lessons repeated throughout the week, I took them into my own life. Once I did, I felt a great release and an overwhelming sense of my own power. I decided that my happiness was my responsibility. I determined that I would live in heaven – right here and now. And most of all, I determined that I will fight every day to be better than the day before.
So, please look into the reality of your life and come to see these lessons. Allow yourself a moment to grasp the liberating and empowering force behind these lessons. Most of all, get up every day and live them. If you do, I guarantee that your life will change and you will never be the same.
All My Love,
Very recently, I had an amazing Tarot Date that brought me to tears. It wasn't anything sad or bad, it was quite the opposite! You see, a client that I have had for slightly over a year has made TREMENDOUS strides! It touched me so deeply, I just have to BLOG about it!
To begin, you should know that I have my client's permission to be writing this. While I will be sharing small details about her dates, I will not be sharing them all; nor, will I be sharing her real name. Gypsy-Fortune-Teller Rule, still intact!
A little more than a year ago, I met Sally through Social Media. She had heard great things about Tarot Dates and wanted one with me. So, we booked her one. And what an amazing reading it turned out to be?! She was very open and truly invested in what we were doing. As a result, I was able to see directly into Sally's life. And to be honest... Sally wasn't truly happy, felt down, repressed, and blocked. Her cards confirmed this, as she came up as the Page of Wands.
Page of Wands is one of my favorite cards. Every time it comes up in someone's reading, I know that I am dealing with a truly great person who has no idea what their full potential is. I know that I am dealing with a gentle spirit, in need of comfort and confidence. Most of all, I know that if I convince this person of their greatness, they would blossom and grow strong. It is one of my favorite cards and it was Sally's card.
Since that date, I have been with Sally every 6 weeks. I have seen her progression from the Page of Wands to the King of Wands. I've seen her stumble and I have seen her pick herself up. I have seen her doubt and I have seen her grow. I've watched her go from closed-off to wildly open to life. Most of all, I watched this young woman go from defeated to victorious. And that, more than any thing else, touches my heart.
She is armed with the tools that she needs to carry on and continue her path of victory. She understands how life is a series of mountain tops and valleys, but is determined to walk from mountain top to mountain top. She's no longer that flower, afraid to blossom. Now she is a beautiful Lotus, open to the Sun and feeling it's warmth upon her face. Sally has stepped into the light and I have been there to watch it all happen.
I couldn't be prouder of Sally and my other clients. Let's face it, nobody is going to a Tarot Card Reader because life is jolly and roses. People come to me facing the hardest parts of their lives. So when they grow like Sally has, my heart swells with pride. For me, there is nothing more important than my clients and their evolutions. Nothing is more important than your ultimate happiness.
All My Love,
*The Page of Wands featured in this blog comes from my favorite deck, the Barbara Moore SteamPunk Tarot Deck. It is available EVERYWHERE!
For the first time ever, I had someone not show up or cancel their appointment. I am very disappointed by that. Everyone I asked about it said the same thing, "make a Cancellation Policy!" After giving it some thought, I've realized that I needed to BLOG about it.
Usually, Tarot Dates go quite easily. We make a date, we do the reading, and then I invoice you. If for some reason any of my clients needed to reschedule, they've always told me in plenty of time. I am always more than happy to move appointments. Being stood up, however... not a good color for me.
What happened the other night was a definitive Stand-Up. I got no call, no message, nothing. At first, I was angry. This person had just cost me an entire hour and I was upset. But then, I gathered my self and realized what I needed to do... invoice her. So, I did! I think that if my time is ever going to be respected, I have to be the one who does it. I felt bad for having to send someone an invoice that didn't get read, but what she did was unacceptable.
Will I make a harsh Cancellation Policy? I don't know... I understand that things sometimes happen and invoicing someone in crisis is NOT my thing. Many Psychics/Readers I know have a PRE-PAY policy. that isn't so bad. What are your thoughts on that? Should it be a Cancelation Policy, or a PrePay?
Until I get it all figured out, things will remain as they are. I have had a lot of success with how I do things and I don't want others to suffer for the actions of one. So, like I said... for now, things will stay as they are. But if you ever need to move an appointment, let me know! I will always go above and beyond to accommodate you! There's never a need to stand a hooker up, am I right?!
This weekend, during the Mystical Paranormal Fair, a great question was asked of me... How much of what you do is intellect and how much is intuition? Now THAT is a fantastic question; so fantastic, I just had to BLOG about it.
To begin, I should explain that I think the brain is divided into sections. Each section of the brain is responsible for a function. I believe that intuition and intellect are among these sections. Further, I believe that one is not more powerful than the other. Lastly, I believe we are each born of these AND in equal proportions.
The Tarot is an art of utilizing both intuition and intellect. A major part of reading Tarot is studying the cards and spreads. Because there are 78 cards, each with 3-4 definitions. There is imagery in each of these cards, "Symbols" that lend themselves to further grasp the cards meaning. Add to that, the possible combinations of cards and positions in the spread. And to further complicate the issue, the card may appear upside down... which completely changes how the card should be read. Obviously, the brain must be willing to study this in great detail, retain it, understand it, and be able to clearly express it. Intellect. BOOM.
But as I expressed earlier, intuition is also a major part of reading the Tarot. And to be upfront with you, I have no idea how it works. All I can do is explain what happens to me, I hope that will give you an idea. When I lay out the cards, a HUGE portion of my mind begins checking the library of definitions for each card and position. Within MILLISECONDS... my heart begins to pound and I begin hearing and feeling details. They come as feelings and sometimes... they come as phrases or songs, or even a sound. I believe that the source of these details is my spirit, senses, and my mind's eye. Ironically, I actually do get gut feelings.
What is the source of my intuition? I believe it is the great truth, an unknowable greatness, and a light from all that is.
At the end of the day, reading the Tarot is an intricate dance of intuition and intellect. Neither is more powerful than the other. Where one drops off, the other steps in to assist. If one were stronger than the other, the reading would be off. The client would sense it. For instance, if you relied solely on your intellect the reading would sound like you are reading from the deck's manual of definitions. If you were relying solely on your intuition... that would make you a Psychic and that's a whole different thing. So as you can see, Tarot exists between both intellect AND intuition. They come together and are inseparable, like fish in water. How amazing is that?!