When we were younger, we were all full of questions. The most popular of these questions being, WHY? “Why is the sky blue?” “Why is the grass green?” “Why is that woman wearing a bikini in Wal-Mart?” All sorts of questions boggled our little minds. As adults, this same question continues to perplex us. So, I just have to BLOG about it.
This past weekend, a client asked me how she could continue on with her marriage. “I can’t stand him, Ken. He is not who he used to be, all he does is video games. What should I do?” My response was simple: ask yourself WHY you should stay.
I pointed out that she had children and that he is wonderful to those children. I explained that she does still care for him, or she wouldn’t be bothered in asking me what to do… she would have left by now. Lastly, I asked her why she married him in the first place. We discussed these things and she soon realized that she needed to reinvest HERSELF into the marriage and that SHE had cashed out years before. So sometimes, knowing why will help you see what you need to do to make things better.
But knowing why isn’t always easy…
Recently, a Tarot client faced a tragic and horrific situation. Her daughter’s friend had been beaten and left for dead on the side of a road. She and her daughter were torn to pieces and devastated by this. I was also shocked and disturbed by what happened. But my client asked me, “Ken, why did this happen? Why would someone do something like this?”
But honestly, the reality is that type of hatred can never be understood - by a rational, loving mind. The animalistic, hateful, and psychotic mind that did this can never be understood by decent people. So, to her, I said… “Don’t ask why. You’ll never grasp this level of hatred. Instead, focus on supporting your daughter and seeing her through this. There is no reasoning behind this.” She agreed and focused on her daughter. As of yesterday, they are accepting their grief and doing what they can to move on.
“Ken, sometimes I don’t even want to get out of bed. I have no joy and I am desperate.” a client said to me the other day. She had a million reasons to give up and she told them each to me, one by one. She had all sorts of reasons, work, family, finances. But the one thing she didn’t know was WHY she should keep going.
So, I asked her why she should continue… and I kept asking until she started seeing all of the reasons why she shouldn’t give up. The cards made it clear she was currently in a Hell state, but that there was hope… if she would open her eyes and see it. After her reading and much support, she dried her tears and vowed to not throw in the towel. I was so elated. Knowing why she had to keep going was all she needed to keep going.
Knowing why keeps us in-check, on the right path, and motivated.
Understanding why can be the difference in throwing in the towel and changing your life. So please, ask yourself why. You may find that WHY may be the most important question you will ever ask.
All My Love,